On Crap Bloggers and Trusting Dicks

Pink Type Writer

Happy days, I've started blogging properly again. Like I used to. And I'm absolutely loving it.

This week I've written about why crap bloggers are to blame for people "not getting blogging":

I think I'm going to start charging a fee for every person I have to deal with that just doesn't get it.

Whether it's in life, in work, or even sometimes in play... the amount of time I've wasted trying to get people to understand the web, my work, or how I work is mind-blowing.

As a blogger (because, even though I run my own site, I'm still not a journalist, and am technically  a blogger) people just assume you don't really know what you're doing. I think I've carved a pretty good reputation for myself as far as work and writing goes - but not everyone I deal with knows that.

But all the print people don't know that. Advertisers don't know that. PR people don't know that. 

(I realize that there are print/advertising/and PR folk who really DO get bloggers and the web and are fabulous beyond all belief, but for this post, I'm only talking about the ones that do my fucking head in, OK?)

So when I say, "Oh our readership is like this and like that and will respond to this!" or "People on Google aren't searching for 'periwinkle German flip-flops' so maybe we shouldn't title the post that"..." I tend to find that people just don't believe me.

I'm wrong. I don't know what I'm talking about.

I'm a blogger. I'm a girl. I'm not a journalist, I don't have a BA in Knowing Everything,  surely YOU are the advertiser, YOU are the journalist, YOU are the PR and YOU are KEEPER OF THE GATES OF WEB KNOWLEDGE so therefore I should just listen to you.

And why is this?

Oh. Because there are tons of really, really stupid bloggers out there.

And I've also written a bit about trust, and how if you trust people to be and behave exactly how they are, you'll never be disappointed by a dick again:

My old therapist once told me that I expected too much from people.

I expected people to do what I'd do...

Or what I'd think any *normal* person would do...

Dickvandyke

Which is absolutley ridiculous

You can't take it personally and get upset that people let you down.

You must unclench and sort of accept that said person is doing the best that they know how to do.

You need to trust people to be and do what they do best...

Which is probably TO BE A DICK.

Martha Beck recently wrote a story for Oprah Magazine (oh yes, I'm going there) about trust: trusting yoursand trusting everyone else.

It may sound silly to trust anyone and everyone, but the thing to remember is that you're not trusting them, your trusting their behavior. The philosopher Lao Tzu wrote:

"The Master…trusts people who are trustworthy. She also trusts people who aren't trustworthy. This is true trust." 

Beck points out that you may think that this is an incredibly stupid idea and to just trust everyone is naive. Don't take candy from strangers and all that.

But she explains what Tzu actually meant, perfectly...

You can check out both of these posts fully on cupcate.com, but I just wanted to let you knwo what I was up to over here. See? I AM STILL ON VOX.