You're so vain, you probably think this blog is about you
Gaping Vaginas of the world, greetings.
We haven't really talked in a while.
I've documented you here in "The Vagina Blogs".
And also here, here, and MY GOD! Take a real hard look at the first part of this little ditty.
I even wrote about you HERE, GV.
It's like we have our own little blog affair going on!
So, don't go gettin' all butt hurt when you read this.
I've got a big ass tag with your name on it, STUPID GIRL...
We've had a long, troubled road, GV. You've had it comin'.
So wipe that innocent, shocked look off of your lycra, thong laden face and listen up.
Girls, get your shit together.
I'm not saying this to hurt your sensitive little heart, stomp on your soul, or tamper with your fragile ego...But really?
COME ON.
Now, look, "Gaping Vagina" isn't the greatest name for you, I know. It's not PC. And it automatically gives a negative connotation to the word "Vagina". However, I feel that you, in turn, are giving all the real women out there a bad name with your pathetic antics, so let's just revel in the irony, okay?
So, for those of who are not a GV, or are just to blind to see that you are, let me explain.
Gaping Vagina: (gae-PING vah-JI-nah) noun / plural - ji-NAZ / abbr: GV
1. a person, usually a woman, who behaves in a manner comparable to that of a twat, and of an idiotic, bitchy nature. The term, in this definition, is reference to a "vagina of large size" implying that the GV behaves, also, in the way a "slut" or "Hooker" would. The Gaping Vagina will stop at nothing to receive the pathetic amount of gratification it needs for it to feel satisfied. It will cheat, imitate, lie, and steal to reach a false sense of satisfaction and their overwhelming need to be adored. The GV pays not attention to those who do not present a direct benefit to their selfish wants and desires.
2.a person, okay a woman, who has no real thoughts, ideas or opinions of her own. In this definition, the term Gaping Vagina implies that the woman is acting like "a pussy", slang for "cowardly" and "without courage". The GV enjoys what everyone else likes, and is so scared of not being liked, that it cannot reveal its true self. The GV will follow, and mimic. Whatever works for everyone else, works for them, too. They are a blind follower, and GV1's biggest fan.
Synonyms: twat, cunt, Paris Hilton
Now, GV1, what the hell happened to a self respect?
You hide behind your "I'm just one of the boys" act.
Why can't you be more proud of the fact that not only are you a woman but you're a smart woman.
I'm not just talking about the fucking morons on TV and in your US Weekly or HELLO!
I've been disgusted with this for a long time. I don't think it's just up to celebrities, and authors, and actresses to portray what a real woman should be.
WE, you and I, make up the REAL world. The world that we all have to play nice with each other in.
I'm talking about the adult women in my life, in your life, and all across the fucking world who apparently that can't get their shit together.
They can't get their shit together to respect themselves, get their life in order, and be a good wife, sister, daughter, mother, or friend
Not even a friend to them self.
I'm talking about GVs in the workplace, online, in your personal life, in your face, in your ears, and fucking with your head.
What the is wrong with you, GV?
Why are you so obsessed with competition, and acceptance, and attention? Why are you willing to do whatever it takes to get that sad gratification from someone giving you a pat on the back or inviting you out for drinks next Thursday.
You are exclusive, not inclusive. You have half hearted friendships that are only based on your pathetic need to keep your friends close, but your enemies closer.
You smile at everyone, but don't have the balls enough to snarl.
You must be liked. You must get invited everywhere. You can't miss anything, you need to know everything, and you need to know more, and be better, hotter, funnier, thinner, bustier, and smarter than EVERYONE.
Your friends. Your "best friend" (all 34 of them). Your family. Your coworkers. Your acquaintances.
If there is someone out there in your radar that is "competition" in your eyes the Green Lights go flashing and you zone in:
There's a fresh one. A live one
She must know that you are higher than her.
Or that you think she's so awesome.
You pose as a follower, or a leader, whichever works best with her. You smile. You giggle.
You have SO MUCH in common.
Best friends!
But the guys like her better. She's smarter than you are.
And why is she so funny? Gawd. Why aren't YOU that funny? Why doesn't everyone laugh at YOU like THAT?
That bitch.
So you become more like her.
Not just friends with similarities. You take whatever she does, sex it up and dye it "envy emerald green", and pass it off as your own.
My god you try hard. And you're sneaky, not everyone sees.
You're like the female Gollum. Except you drink Gin and Tonic instead of live, raw fish...
You've got a split personality so deranged you don't even know what your real name is anymore.
(It's Sméagol! SHMEEGLE! SHHHMMEEEGGGLLLEEE!!!!!)
Your laugh becomes louder. Your shirt gets tighter and lower. Your skirts rise up while your dignity plunges.
Why are you suddenly sipping pink cosmos instead of your usual one olive martini?
But you're just one of the guys, right? So we can't get mad at you if you hug our boyfriends just a little too close and a little too long because,
A) Oh my god, we're like brother and sister! Do you really think I LIKE your BOYFRIEND? EW!
B) That's just the way I am. I'm naturally flirty.
C) I'm so innocent and lovable. Everyone just loves me, so you better not say anything bad about me.
It's near fucking impossible to call a GV on their bullshit, and if you do she'll claim you're just "threatened" by her or she'll pull the "I'm Sensitive" card and make it seem like your the jealous bitch.
You're a smart one, GV. You're crafty.
But you could be so much smarter if you would just would put all of the energy you're spending manipulating and coning others, into yourself.
From the bible one of my absolute favorite books, Female Chauvinist Pigs by Ariel Levy, comes the quote,
"Why is it still the case that if we have a series about women on television, it has to be about their bodies and sexuality?"
Yes, sexuality and our bodies are a big part of who we are, but that is not all we are.
We all know this, right? Or were you sick the day they went over that in school?
Why is it that if women want to be popular or stand out, there are so many of us that will still mock society's rules and put breasts before brain?
And why is it when so many women are losing, and their success and popularity is on the line, they panic and, ,
"Um, ah, Um...God..Wow, I'm uh. So, erm...Geez. TITS! Me so horny! Look at me guys! I'm liberated and sexual! You like me! You liiiiiiike meeee!"
Don't have the wits or the energy to 'win' any other way?
Hey! Be slutty! It seems to work for everyone else!
But you're not being a stereotype or anything, oh no, because you're what Ariel Levy would call, "A 'loophole woman', an exception in a male-dominated field [or group] whose presence supposedly proves its penetrable."
You're sexy! You're putting you and your sexuality out there because "that's just how you are". You have guts! You're so crazy! Right?
In Susan Brownmiller's words,
"You think you're being brave, you think you're being sexy, you think you're transcending feminism. But that's bullshit."
And it is bullshit. And the women around you that you try so hard in every which way imaginable to "beat" and "use" and "be like" will look at you like how I LOOK AT YOU.
And that is with a disapproving, raised eye brow, as I take a sip of my double, Absolut Better-Than-You cocktail and think to myself, "What a god damn Gaping Vagina."
As will every single other woman, and hopefully, man in your life because it is too difficult to keep up all those lies and shows at once. You will burn your own bridges. They will from both ends and turn to ash.
I just hope by the time you are stranded on your own lonely island with nothing but a bunch of fishnets and "Lip Venom" left will you have finally figured out what your problem is?
Or will we have a new TV program called "GV and the Island" where you sit on your laptop and video blog about the trials and tribulations of masturbation and how horny you are all by yourself on that god damn island.
And as for the Gaping Vaginas in Definition #2 (GV2) ....
Stop being so fucking scared of everything! Stop being afraid people won't like you, or you'll make people mad.
GV, why must you just jump on the bandwagon and throw caution to the wind?
Don't you realize we can see how awkward and out of place you are, standing there in someone else's skin?
Why are you sweet as Splenda to all of these people, just for the sake of being liked?
You know who you are deep down, so why have you become such a fucking sell out?
These are the girls in your life that live to be exactly like their heroes, and exactly the same as their friends,
"Oh my god, I love Victoria Beckham because she's so beautiful. Oh wait....you don't like her? OH, yeah she's such a slut. So anorexic. Wait, you like her book? OH! Me, too! It's so awesome. I love her clothes."
It is because of the 2nd type of GV that the 1st kind is so prevalent.
GV2 worships GV1.
GV1 feeds off of her because OH MY GOD SHE ADORES ME. She gives me all the attention I need!
The GV1 doesn't mind being copied because it is OH so flattering! She has a precious follower who buys into her bullshit.
GV2 thinks GV1 is wonderful not because of HOW she gains attention and adoration, but simply because she HAS attention and adoration.
They mimic and copy anyone and everyone that the masses appear to like, without using judgment. People like them, therefore they must be good, right?
For example...
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Paris Hilton.
She cannot sing. She is not intelligent. She is NOT sexy. She is famous for her sex tape, being stupid, and for being rich.(Did I mention her wonky eye?)
Why do girls try to be like her, dress like her, and fuck like her?
Aren't we over this? Over her? Why do so many girls still like her?
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"How To Make Love Like A Porn Star: A Cautionary Tale" by Jenna Jameson
I find it hilarious that highly intelligent women out there, are reading and buying this book.
Do you realize you're reading an author who was simultaneously selling a best selling memoir, and a real life model of her "ass and vagina" with complimentary bottle of lube at the same time?
Inspiring? Impressive? Worthy of imitation and praise? Hardly.
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The "Girl With A One Track Mind" phenomenon.
This was actually the sex blog/book behind the "Vagina Blogs" post I linked to.
Blunt sex talk.
Where do you draw the line behind pornography and 'blunt sex talk'. You can be sexual. I'm sexual. I just don't really talk about my sex life. My choice. It's also your choice to talk about it. But I don't think you're talking about it because you want to. Or that's just "how you are".
You're talking about it because you enjoy the hard-ons and wide-ons from your fellow GV friends and stupid followers get because of it.
I believe being sexy is the same as being funny.
It has to be subtle. It's an acquired taste. Not every technique or approach works for everyone all the time...but everyone is funny to somebody else out there.
When a joke is forced, obvious, and has to be explained, it's not funny.
When you have to constantly say, "See? Did you see what I did there? I'm mad I am!" that's not funny.
The same goes for sexiness.
And sexy isn't "So I was fucking this guy yesterday, god it was so fucking good. Oh my tits. Did I tell you about my tits?"
That's just stupid. That's the same kinda 'sexy; as porn: Hard. Cold. Emotionless.
Real 'sexy' is intimate. Passionate. Heat.
When a GV2 uses sex for attention, or tries to pass themselves off as being just "naturally sexual", it sounds and looks like a person with no rhythm attempting to do the tango. It doesn't fit. It's not natural, therefore, not sexy.
Look, ladies.
Just because you are not willing to hop on the pathetic bandwagon that is the GV's way of life does not make you 'out of touch', or prudish.
Just like me calling out the GVs on their behavior doesn't make me jealous.
I LOL @ U!
I don't have a problem with anyone who flexes their freedom to CHOOSE and makes a CHOICE that I disagree with as long that it is based on honesty, truth, intelligence, and for them self!.
Be ORIGINAL.
Be HONEST.
You would not talk about your sex life, have your tits on display, or use overly sexual language if it didn't get you attention.
You would not befriend certain people if you didn't think their friendship, or associating yourself with their name, would get you somewhere higher than where you are.
Your vocabulary, choice of drink, choice of music, and persona alter, change and distort change simply depending on who is praising you with attention at the moment.
STOP IT.
Not everything is a competition.
Not everyone is out to get you.
Not every woman is jealous of you.
Just because not every woman likes you, isn't because they are jealous of the attention you are getting. It is not even because "girls just don't like other girls".
There are just some of us who work hard to be ourselves. We work and keep our eyes and tits focused and pointed on our own passions, goals, and our own lives.
You just have yours focused and pointed on everyone else, seeing if they're staring at yours.
So, Miss.Gaping Vagina.
Stop faking it.
It's like, so much fuckin' hotter when it's, like, real and shit.
Comments
Your writing is brilliant.
Well, enough ranting. You are just a very talented writer. And those GVs better watch out. (that is just a horrible horrible visual, by the way...ew).
oh crap, i think your blog is totally all about me! how awesome that you noticed! how do my tits look in this top? ;)
in all seriousness, that's an amazing piece, and i agree with you entirely. i usually agree with you entirely, actually. this is why it's hard to have female friends, because so many women have been sucked into this gaping vortex, and/or want to suck me into it.
Seems we know the same people.
Oh MAN I recognize so many people in this post, some I know, some I am acquainted with and some I have only observed. yuck, yuck and YUCK. One of them was someone that used ot be my roommate, her repuation finally caught up with her somehow and she started acting more conservative, suddenly took out the tongue piercing she 'got for herself' (yeah, attention for herself becuase it put to mind blowjobs for guys she met) It's like one step forward six steps back for females these days it seems.
very.well.written.
(do I even have to add that anymore?)
Mind if I link back to your post here on vox &/or LJ?
I'm reading How to Make Love Like a Porn Star... which is interesting/disgusting trying to understand this woman's mind, but at the same time, I actually have cried reading some of her stories. I feel a lot of pity for Jenna, yet she makes me sick. I almost didn't buy this book but I was too curious. It's opened my eyes to a lot. I'm glad I'm reading it but I wouldn't be inspired to be like Jenna at all, ever. I think she's made some serious mistakes and has spawned a generation of Gv's.
Thanks for writing this post Cate. As always, you have the words I usually can't find and you help me make sense of things.
I think she is strong from living through some of the shit she has been through...but I agree..it has spawned a generation of GV's. Her mistakes make other people feel as though its okay to make the same ones.
Ha, but seriously this is partly why I'm glad I left L.A.. There are the regular GV girls who wish they were models, and then GV girls who are actresses/models which is almost unbearable yet highly entertaining. My husband refers to these also as "Woo Girls" because they are likey to be at any given bar doing jello shots and yelling "woooooo!" for no reason.
I know a lot of gaping vaginas. I even have a couple that are (unfortunately) related to me... And I'm glad that I've found a word to describe them and their behaviour. Gaping Vagina. It sums things up perfectly, and sounds so much better than "you trashy little cock rag".
Therefore, I have come to a conclusion.
You must get a book deal. (Or at least a paid blog spot!) And if you don't, I will dye my hair, label myself an 'an EMO chick', and proceed to slit my throat after writing terrible poetry that detailed my love for you. Naturally, no one would understand why I'd done it - because that's how these stories go.
But YOU, you will know why I met that terrible fate.. And I demand that you save me from a fate of black leather trench coats and bad eyeliner. Because I'm very attatched to beaded tops, stilettos and knee boots, I really don't want to give up my love of clothes (and shoes, and bags, and undies..) for a life of misery, misunderstanding and bad dress sense...
Hello there Fellow GV Haters...
Liz-
Your tits look better than mine in that top, therefore I must become everything you embody, and change my name to Liza. I agree wtih it being so hard to find female friends that I actually WANT to be friends with. The GVs try to suck me into their vaginal vortex, as well. Damn GVs.
Marque-
Yes, sex should be good for the woman and not just about men. And yes, I'm can be very scary, and pissing me off is not a good idea. MUAHAHAHAHAHAHH.
Paxton-
Ah, you're welcome!
I didn't use to consider myself a prude, and still don't, but I find myself being disgusted by it.
AMEN. I'ts like DO NOT call me a prude. I am not uptight.
I despise that. I guess not wanting to use my body for attention or to prove how "liberated" or "cool" I am deffinately makes me a prude.
Addin' ya to my 'hood! Thanks for reading, and I couldn't agree with you more..
Aurielis-
It would appear so, wouldn't it ;)
Ruthypants-
Sigh...Just, SIIIIIGGGGHHH....
Island Girl-
You would think that GVs were in their early twenties or late teens. You would THINK this bullshit would stop at age 24, right? But it doesn't. Every single inspiration behind this "GV" phenomenon comes from women who are over 24, some well over 24.
Kristen-
YOU are not a GV. By any means. I know we've already talked about this, but you have a brilliant head on your shoulders and know to take certain things with a grain of salt. Yes she has been through a lot, I would never dispute that...I just think there are better ways to deal with hardships than taking your clothes off and exploiting your sexuality on such an extreme level for fame and money...
Crixpy-
I heart you (and Chex Mix) too!
Arty Farty-
Love the "WOO" girls thing! :)
Naureen-
"Intelligent yet unwise" oh man, you are spot on. These GVs are very, very smart. Too smart. But they don't cover their tracks well enough. Very sad, but it's like, grow up. When I have to fake it around GVs (just to simply prevent myself for tearing them to shreds) I feel like I'm going to throw up. I hate "playing nice". Thanks for readin'.
Thanks for takin' the time to read, everyone!
xx
And I demand that you save me from a fate of black leather trench coats and bad eyeliner.
Do you promise that you'll even start listening to Dashboard Confessional and make a really depressing MySpace page with a "custom made skull & cross bones layout'??!?!
If it were in my control to grant myself a 6 figure book deal just to prevent you from the periel that is the Emo lifestyle, I woud, dear friend. However, let's just hope that it happens so that we won't end up on each other's Top 38 MySpace Friend's List with matching, skunk like, platinum blonde and black hair.
But, at least we would have eachother....
Thanks for readin'..
And please, just say no to emo.
Ok, enough poking fun at the faux miserable people..
I really do hope you get some recognition. And I say that without any essence of arselicking. ;)
you had me at gaping vaginas.
Arcadia-
Thank you :) A book one day would be lovely, hopefully it will happen...And with minimal arse licking, lol.
Zack-
Thanks, man. You're lucky to have escaped knowing any GVs!!! Trade you!
LeendaDLL-
You complete me...
Gamba-
Read it! It's fabulous, very eye opening. I'll admit I'm such a nerd I read it in one day. Yeah. I'm that loser that sits in cafes, only orders one drink, and takes the good chair all day while I read. Loathe me, lol. Thanks for reading!!
Wonderful, simply wonderful! I love this so much!
And sexy isn't "So I was fucking this guy yesterday, god it was so fucking good. Oh my tits. Did I tell you about my tits?"
As for the above, I honestly know this girl. She decided to give our entire table, many of which didn't know her a quick recap of her sex life from high school to present at a freaking wedding, while we were eating. I just wanted to stand up and scream, what the fuck is wrong with you? Why don't you grab the mic from the DJ and just announce that you are in desperate need of alot of stares and at the end of the night would be happy if some, any guy would just take you into the restroom and fuck you, because it was about that obvious.
Whew...where to begin girlie. The socail and cultural commentary is spot on...from the Britney Spears-type labial exposures to the six-year-old skanks in training you can see scampering about in any suburb (you know the ones, dressed in miniature pole dancer couture). The antics of some women nowadays have certainly made all of us old leathery broads wonder what the hell everyone was fighting so hard for. An Equal Rights Amendment? No it would seem a lot of women have forgotten about the struggle to be taken seriously by men. Which is hard to do when you've just appeared on Channel 59 in a commercial for "Girls Gone WIld" making out with your sorority sister and making mommy and daddy wish they'd never sent you to college or paid for spring break for godsake.
My only consolation - Daughter does not behave like this. Yay, Daughter!
There's is much good here. I have to read this again later.
But it left me troubled and with questions.
1) Can guys also be GV's? I think I know a few. Or are they just run-of-the-mill pussies?
2) Are you going to pitch GV and the Island? If you don't I will.
3) What the hell is a "wide-on?"
4) Why the hell don't I know what a wide-on is?
5) If I started a blog dedicated to my sex life, do you think anyone would offer me a six figure contract just to stop writing about it?
So many burning questions. I hope that's what's burning, anyway.
But, alas I read on and cognizant thought set in...and all I can say is SPOT ON. I'm so glad that at 35 I've 1) stopped being a GV, because yes, at one point in my 20's I certainly was and 2) I no longer let such people into my inner sanctum of life. WHEW on both counts.
I have to say I used to be (act/live) whatever you want to say, like definition number 1. I'm not proud of it but that was me to a T.
I've since grown up and learned the lessons I needed to, and everyday i'm still working on it.
And I agree with most everyone else, your writing is awesome.
~Nickie
it just sucks to see women like these skanks try and make themselves to be role models to much of society and they're really nothing but whores. job well done! :)
Despite becoming a multi-millionaire, and owning her own company - Jenna Jameson isn't inspiring because she isn't ashamed of her body?
Oooookay.
It has nothing to do with being "not ashamed of your body".
Just because women don't want to be strippers, or porn stars, or be naked on the internet doesn't mean they're ashamed of their bodies, or prudes.
If Michael Jordon starts selling sex toys modeled after his own body, I'm going to give up on being human altogether.
Sorry, I'm still going to have to go with CupCate on this one. Jameson isn't a trailblazer into women's rights, something we should all teach our little girls to aspire to. She's a woman who made a whole lot of money having sex with strangers. There's another name for that, and it isn't "roll model."
There's another name for that, and it isn't "roll model."
Or ROLE model, even.
My point is, if people weren't so uptight about what someone does, they would in fact see that she is a trailblazer for women's rights. Just because you may have personal issues with sex doesn't preclude anyone else.
Entertainment is entertainment. Further, I'd suggest that anyone who owns her own company, is sucessful at what she does, is an accomplished actress, and best selling author has indeed achieved things worthy of praise.
Just because people, like myself, don't think she's "a trailblazer in women's rights" doesn't mean we're uptight, or have "personal issues with sex".
"Trailblazing women's rights" by exploiting your sexuality and body isn't new. It's a very, very old, stereotypical concept that many women have used. I'm pretty sure I wrote about that in my post. It may be "entertainment" to you and a lot of other people, but it's actually very sad.
No one ever argued she's rich, or famous, or has her own company, or whatever. I do no agree with your ideas of what makes a woman accomplished, or a role model, or a "trailblazer for women's rights". Associating her with "women's rights" is bullshit. I don't care how much money or fame she has, I will never view her as a positive example for women.
i have to agree with Cate on this one. i personally don't see any correspondence whatsoever between being rich or even owning one's own company and being a "trailblazer for women's rights." there are plenty of women who own their own companies, and plenty who are rich. being one doesn't make you the other
i think to be a trailblazer for women's rights these days one should actually do something... oh i don't know, new... for women's rights.
And if her body was her only commodity -- one would question how she runs her own business or wrote a best selling book -- but I digress.
The fact that she didn't "bother getting an education" and still did all of this without the crutch of a man doing it for her, is all the more reason why it's an accomplishment.
But I don't know the girl personally, so I can't make a blanket statement about whether or not she's a good role model based simply on what she legally does for a living.
Yes, okay, I misspelled "role model." I don't supposed you'd buy it if I said I did that on purpose just to see if people were paying attention?
I find it amazing that you know that I have personal issues with sex, although we've never met. I don't believe I have any issues with sex. I like sex. Sex is one of the basic functions of the human body, and a damned good way to spend an afternoon. Please don't think you know me.
I don't even have issues with people who have sex with someone they don't care about purely for the enjoyment of it, although I think it's sad when it becomes a complete lifestyle. I've known people who have no problem finding "friends with benefits," but seem completely incapable of truly opening up to another person in any way that really means anything. I also don't have a problem with pornography. It is what it is - a fantasy packaged for sale.
What I do have a problem with, and what I think CupCate's post was originally about, was the fact that the media more and more often is holding up sex devoid of intimacy as ideal of human sexuality. Even the title of Jameson's book, "How to Make Love Like a Pornstar," belies the emptiness of this ideal. Jameson didn't make her fortune by "making love," she got it by having sex with strangers and letting people videotape it. I don't believe this is morally wrong, but it's sad, empty, and cold, and to set this up as an ideal to be admired and emulated isn't good for us as individuals or as a society.
I don't believe I have a problem with sex. I believe that our society has a problem with intimacy.
We can say we admire a successful pornstar for her business savvy or whatever, but the fact still remains that they and many others in the media make their money by exploiting the general confusion between sex and intimacy. If believing that makes me a puritan, then I guess I'll just have to accept that.
Oh, I don't know, Pax. I rather enjoy your personal issues with sex. ::wink, wink::
I'm pretty sure Jenna is only as "successful" as she is BECAUSE of the assistance of men...The men who buy her DVDs, "ass/vagina models", and it is MEN who are the main consumers of pornography. Yes, there are also female consumers -like the women who bought her book- but it is predominantly men who have made her a "successful business woman".
And as far as breaking into a male dominated industry and taking over...
Oprah Winfrey.
Half the adult videos in the U.S. are bought or rented by women alone or women in couples.
http://www.ffeusa.org/html/statements/statements_pornography.html
http://www.bc.edu/bc_org/avp/law/st_org/iptf/commentary/content/1999122601.html
http://www.cultsock.ndirect.co.uk/MUHome/cshtml/media/porno6.html
OPRAH?
-Exploits men, women, children, and families and profits from it.
-Puts her likeness on everything imaginable for her own gain.
-Definitely requires an army of people to make her look good in every sense of the word.
-Uses her race when it suits her, and forsakes it when it doesn't.
This is confusing. I didn't know different standards applied to different people.
Thanks for your super intellectual links...I'll be sure to read those over in my spare time about how women and feminists think porn is okay.
I've learned so much about women from you. Thank you. Your views are so enlightening. Because of this, I will no longer be ashamed of my body, or think sex is "bad" or "dirty".
Pornography is empowering, and Jenna Jameson is a trail blazer for women, and Oprah Winfrey exploits women.
You're right. You're right about everything. I just hope that one day, I'll be able to achieve that far off dream of running my own pornography company, and being a trail blazer for women without the help of men. Golly, how swell that would be.
Actually, the links cited facts. Facts that blew away your statement.
But that's fine, your passive agressive response was cute.
That's what my post is about. That's what THIS BOOK is about. Maybe you should read it.
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Is that the book that crucifies young girls for wanting a Brazillian wax, and OMG to wear a thong?
How wonderful the world would be if people would just worry about themselves.
BTW Cate, I like your writing and agree with you in theory, I've just felt like arguing the past two days. :o)
I thought the whole point here about the GVs is women who tart themselves out because and only because they want to make men like them, and lose any sense of self in the process....? That to me is the problem with the porn industry and all the so-called role mosels.
Oprah (as an example) is trying to teach people to educate & respect themselves while Jenna Jameson (to use her as an example, not to target her specifically of course) is just trying to make a buck off of her own lack of self-respect. again...nothing wrong with porn in general but the message that it sends, being so in the mainstream these days, to young girls & women is really twisted and sad.
ZOMG! YOU MIGHT BE MARRIED TO A GAY MAN!!
Please...spare me.
She exploits a culture of victimization that she did so much to create; she glamorizes misery; she amplifies already widespread narcissism and solipsism; she fills people's heads with nothing but "new agey" philosophy and empty platitudes.
I have like & dislike for Oprah---but I think she has done a lot more for the world (and herself) than Jenna Jameson!!! i think you missed the point here...it's not about Oprah and her billions.
I think I'd like being married to a gay man. hm. yeah, sounds okay. sounds kinda faaaabulous in fact.
AND CUPCATE
They can be co-presidents.
also, CRANKY. It'll be a triumvirate.
I hope nobody's head explodes because I said that, although if someone's does, I'll watch it on youtube.
nono---no presidency for me.
Maybe I'll be Cate's intern, haha
I forgot to say earlier, and I don't know if someone's said it yet, but in response to that thing a few comments up about Cate's "passive aggressive response" being "cute", that wasn't passive aggression it was sarcasm. And it was great. And if there's anything that rubs me the wrong way, it's when men try to act like they're standing up for women's rights then call them "cute" during a debate. Just sayin'.
Thanks.
Also - some comprehension could suit you well. I called the comment cute, not her.
Gave away a few cars to audience members and turned daytime tv into something I would switch off quite happily. Other than that she seems like a nice enough lady. :o)
And when some of the poorer families that didn't have enough money to cover the taxes for the cars wrote to her and asked her to help...do you know what she did?
Nothing.
Okay.
Debates are fine. Mild arguing is fine. But arguing for the sake of arguing is old and tired and done with...especially when it's starting to insult people.
I threw Oprah's name out there as an example of a woman who has NOT fed into sexist stereotypes as a way of getting herself to the top of her game, and that has her own company.
Which was what my post was about anyway....
Ay chiwawa.
Crixpy, you can be my lackey any day. As long as you bring Chex Mix.
And Ruthy, you shall be the royal intern...She who has nice hands and weird shoulders and one damn fine chihuahua. :)
have you read the book "return to modesty?"
Cupcate - I know it's selfish, but I wouldn't trade you in a million years, if your ever in Australia I'll be happy to introduce you to my female friends though.
Tony - If i had a nice set of tits the support of a wealthy family and was willing to suck allot of cock in the right places, then I reckon I could make myself pretty rich like Jenna and Paris too, I suppose you could call that an acheivement, but it's not exactly one I'd be proud of.
Pax - "Yes, okay, I misspelled "role model." I don't supposed you'd buy it if I said I did that on purpose just to see if people were paying attention?" I'd buy it, please don't do these sorts of tests on us men folk Pax, it's confusing, missleading, not very nice, and generaly causes more problems than it solves (like Tony assuming that you are stupid).
Oprah - Would you comission me to paint your portrait? I'm poor and I need the money.
Insomnia sucks.
How did I miss this post of yours before?
I feel like I have just been to church; and I don't mean boring, fall asleep on the hard-ass wooden pews church - but - in your face, holy-rolling, stand-up and wave your hands in the air, crying and singing "Amazing Grace," shouting "I HAVE BEEN SAVED!" church. Yeah, that kind of church.
Cate. I love you. I will never be the same. Thank you.
Cate - you know you did a good job on a post when the comments are three times as long as the original blog.
This was entertaining....all in one spot...we have opinions, condemnations, judgement, name-calling, and sarcasm. Perfect.
Thank you cupcate, you affirm my pride in my gender.
I seem to remember a saying that went something like "A desire repressed is a demon born."
If you scale the GV definition back by varying degrees, or give it some razor-sharp teeth, you have a fair idea about many of the women of my family.
My baby sister is a so-called feminist, but sees fit to chastise my sister when she *could not* breast-feed and had to feed my nephew formula, and to tell me how to be a father when she has no children.
I'll spare you the rest... melodramatics is just bad. But I recoil in pain remembering so many variations of this that I actually grew up with.
i think it's possible for a woman to be overtly passionate and sexual without it being a bid for attention or power. while i don't agree with defining yourself by your sexuality or your appearance, etc., i do think that part of truly embracing yourself as a woman is embracing your sexuality as well. but i think it's a very thin line between the kind of empowerment i'm talking about and the warped version of it that GVs represent, one that a lot of young girls can't seem to find the right side of (no thanks to all the older GVs walking around in Celebrityland).
thanks for a damn good read!
Anyway, thanks for your eloquent post. Cheers!